Well, MFH is at it again. This is what happened. She took her daughter out of school and tried to check her into another school. THE PROBLEM: The school wouldn’t take her because they said she was not the type of parent they wanted at their school. But, before she left, (tried to anyway), she slandered my name with a couple of other parents. Do they believe it? Some do. Some don’t. Do I care? Meh, I know I should but I don’t. I know how good I am at my job and no one can take that away from me. The mom in question only has an 8th grade education, yet wants to tell me how to run the classroom; and she is a biiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiggggggggggggg troublemaker. So, what I know is that I am going to come out of this smelling like a rose no matter what anyone tries to say or do.
I have to say that I was wrong for arguing with MFH in front of her child. I didn’t mean for it to escalate, but it did. NO EXCUSES!!! So, today I apologized to India. I didn’t want her to think that I hated her or her mom. I told her that I am sorry for what happened with her mother and that I still liked her- that nothing changed between us.
She said, “Thank you Miss,” and gave me a hug.
I should have been more mindful of her presence. That is one thing that I hate about myself. I hate to get as mad as I did yesterday, because it is hard for me to calm down. Yesterday was inspiring for me though. It inspired me to get back to the way I used to be when I spoke up for myself. It also inspired me to seek an anger management treatment program. I did NOT like me yesterday. Although everything I told MFH about herself was true, they were mean. I don’t want anyone to take me to that point.
If you’ve been reading this blog, you’ve probably noted that theme repeated. You’ve probably also noted that I HAVE allowed myself to get to the point where I don’t care about anyone’s feelings. So, as of today, I take responsibility for my actions. I challenge myself to find an anger management treatment center. AS OF TODAY, I CHALLENGE MYSELF TO DO BETTER!
I was going to take a mental health day today, but decided not to because I am not a quitter. I did nothing but defend myself. But, I am still so mad at myself. “Why?” you ask. Well, I had it out with MFH again yesterday. I’m so mad that I didn’t control myself. I knew she was trying to upset and I let her win. I let her steal my peace.
I didn’t write about it yesterday because I needed some time to calm down and think things through. Yesterday I really wanted to quit my job. It’s just like my old job all over again. However, I’ve had overnight to think about what I want to do and have decided not to.
This mom is something else. She is always trying to sucker punch me. That is her M.O. I know because I have been going out of my way to be nice to her. I swallowed my pride and started talking to her and giving her reports, glowing reports I might add, regarding her daughter. But, did this placate her? NO. She decided to go to the Principal because her daughter didn’t understand the homework. Her daughter didn’t understand the homework because she wasn’t supposed to be doing the homework. However, I didn’t know that her daughter didn’t know how to do the homework because she never told me. Instead she went straight to the Principal.
This is how it all began. She asked me about the homework.
“No,” I said. “India does not have homework”.
But, can you do me a favor and visit the classroom,” I said, “because I did not deserve for you to go to the Principal. If you had a problem, you should have asked me before you went over my head.
She then told me that it was her right to go to the Principal. I told her that I didn’t say she couldn’t go to the Principal. I said she shouldn’t have gone because going to the Principal was the equivalent of saying I wasn’t doing my job.
“I do my job and I do it well”. I said. “My classroom works. If you would really like to know how the classroom works, the only thing I ask you to do is to come to the class and see how the classroom works”. THEN, if you have a problem with it, you should go to the Principal”.
She then told me that she didn’t know it was bad to go to Principal. REALLY???? C’MON SON!!!!!!
Anyway, we had a heated discussion for about 35 minutes, during which time she only complained and did not look for solutions. It was at this point that I asked her if she only wanted to complain or did she want to find solutions. She ignored me and continued to complain. That’s when I decided to end the meeting. She was crying BIG ALLIGATOR tears at this point to try to evoke sympathy. IT DIDN’T WORK!!! I’m going to say this, even though it’s mean. I did not feel sorry for someone who has tried to get me fired. TWICE!!!
When I broached that subject about her trying to get me fired, she said that it was my job to try to save my job. (She said it in Spanish, not knowing that I could understand her.) That’s when I told her that I wouldn’t have to try to save my job if she would quit trying to get me fired when she knows that I am helping her daughter. She even admitted that I am helping her daughter and that her daughter loves me.
I am at my wit’s end. I am T.I.R.E.D.!!! I have been going through H.E.L.L. for about 8 years. When is it going to end?????????? I would just like to do my job and go home. NO MUSS! NO FUSS!
This week I got two new students. Two boys. One is a little rambunctious and the other is a lot rambunctious. I just keep getting more and more piled on my plate. I hope that I or it doesn’t fall and break.
Working in education makes you one tough mutha’, shut yo’ mouth! Although I may get off track and temporarily want to smack someone (as with MFH), I’ve learned many simple truths that will help save your sanity. They are in no particular order. Enjoy!
- You will have parents (more than likely a mom) from hell who complain about everything.
- There will be parents who will question your methods.
- There will be parents who will have your back. Especially regarding the parents from hell.
- Administrators may turn on you. You’ve got to learn how to have your own back. What I mean by this is that you have to learn to stick up for yourself.
- Some years will be terrible.
- Some years will be fantastic.
- You may not like all of your students. Over the years (since we are human) we may have a personality clash or two with a student or two.
- You will not get paid what you are worth. Deal with it.
- Children need to learn:
- Independence &
- to be told no
10. All of your hard work will one day pay off!!!
Yes, Dear Readers,
MFH is at it again. She is a terribly unhappy person who is not happy unless she’s making someone else happy. But, I will not be one of the ones she makes unhappy. I just won’t let her. I am going to keep being me. If she had it her way, her daughter would be the only student in 4th grade. That way, she could get ALL the attention.
This is her problem- I have a combination 4/5 class. In order for the class to work, I put all the 4th graders together in one group; and I put all the 5th graders together in one group & switch back & forth all day. I am making the best out of a bad situation. MFH knows this, but she chooses to complain anyway. What did she do this time? Well, she went to the Principal. AGAIN!!! She complained that her daughter does not get enough feedback. NOT TRUE! The Principal said that she told her she knows I give the students feedback, but I’m not too sure if I believe that.
The problem- She stopped upsetting me. Whenever I spoke with her, I put a smile on my face. But that wasn’t the case during the first month of school. During the first month of school we were going at it because she wants me to give ALL of my attention to her child, to the exclusion of every other student. Obviously I cannot do that.
Well, I decided to put a stop to her harassment and to stop her from trying to ambush me in the mornings & after school. I put up a conference request sheet on my door that can be signed whether I’m there or not. I also started heading her off at the pass & began giving her daily updates on her daughter’s behavior. I really tried to work with her, but I see there is no pleasing her, so I’m not going to try.
Problem- She wants me to change the way I run my classroom. Well, that’s not going to happen. I am not going to stop running my class the way I run it. My classroom is very efficient and runs very well. It works for me & the students, soI will continue to work on my students and myself, professionally & personally. She is such a non-factor, it’s not even funny!
Problem- She wants to steal my peace, but she cannot or will not steal it. I’ll keep it to myself. Thank you very much!
So, that’s my rant for the day. Have a good day & don’t let anyone try to steal your peace.
Whew!!!I’ve finally caught up on the checking the homework. Now, I just have to sort it, pass it back, and figure out who didn’t put names on their papers.