Your mother telling you that sticks and stones may break your bones, but names will never hurt you, could not have been further from the truth. Words are so powerful. Just ask Dr. Who!
Dr. Who? Who is Dr. Who? Well, unless you’ve had your head under a rock for the past thirty years, you should know who Dr. Who is. I, for one, am an avid fan of Dr. Who (the new one w/David Tennant).
In fact, I like most sci-fi, even the cheesy kind. I rank Dr. Who as one of the best sci-fi shows of all time.
When I first started watching Dr. Who, I have to admit that I was a non-believer. I would wonder how he was going to get out of the mess of the week that he was in, without any type of firearm or weapon. I didn’t think that he could defeat someone with just words. Well, to my amazement, he did manage to do it without any type of firearm or weapon, every single time. That’s how Dr. Who defeats his enemies; with a clever plan and words.When you think about, most people are defeated with words.
However, he not only defeats his enemies, he builds up and helps others. That’s what I’ve been doing a lot of. Building up, that is! I’ve also been doing some conquering too, so to speak!
I am talking about Lito,
one of my unruliest kid. Since I started my job he has been driving me crazy. In order to try to have some type of peace, I have been researching different methods.
Well, I’ve finally find one that has been working for me. I stumbled upon a website for dealing with especially unruly children. On the website (which I cannot remember), the author lets you in on a little secret regarding the best way to deal with an especially unruly child. He says to take a walk. That’s it. Just take a walk. But during that walk, just talk with the child about whatever they like. Even though I thought it was too simple, I tried it anyway.
Ya’ know what? It does work.
After getting to know Lito and some of the others, I added in another aspect to the walk. I added my Dr. Who-like talks in. I want to build the students up and let them know that their environment doesn’t have to define them; they don’t have to become a statistic, they can be what they chose to be.
I am especially happy that I did have those Dr. Who-like conversations with my students because a situation arose today when I showed all of my students their report cards and discussed it with them.
They were scared to see them, but wanted to see them anyway. I’m happy to report that there were no tantrums. They were not surprised. They understood the reasoning behind their grades.
One of my other students, Mannish, told me that when he was little he had 3’s & 4’s. “Now, he said, I have 1’s & 2’s. They’re just going to keep getting lower.
“By the time I get to high school, I’ll have all 1’s,” he said.
After hearing this comment, I thought, “I’ve come far, but I’ve still got a long way to go”. However, as with Dr. Who, failure is simply not an option (I’ll think that’ll be my new sign-off line from now on.)
I’ll keep trying, because failure is simply not an option.